The Value of Mutual Respect and
Well-being in the Karate Dojo
A student learns many things in
Karate, from blocks and strikes to Japanese counting. This material is often
what the public focuses on when they think of the martial arts.
In addition, when we are testing students we look at what physical
techniques they are supposed to know, as well as some history of the art.
However, nothing learned in a dojo is as important as understanding the
value of mutual respect and well-being. Without it, everything else is merely a
tool to be used for selfish purposes. With
it, one’s world can be changed.
To understand the importance of
mutual respect and well-being, you must first understand what it means. Respect is about more than simply doing what the sensei asks,
although that is a part of it. According
to wikipedia.org, respect is “the acknowledgment that someone or something has value; the showing of thoughtfulness
and consideration; to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to
respect a person's privacy; to relate or have reference to.”
There are several ways to show respect: through language, body language,
and by behavior. In the dojo, we
call the head instructor “Sensei,” which means “one who has come
before.” We may also call the head student “Sempi,” “sir,” or
“ma’am.” Children are asked
to address adult students by Mr. or Ms. rather than the more familiar first
name. In a traditional dojo, bowing
is a use of body language that shows respect. Students bow to the Shomen before entering the dojo, and
before and after class bow to the Shomen, Udanja,
and the Sensei. In addition, before starting any formal exercises the students
will bow to each other. These are
all formal ways that Karate students show respect to the martial arts, their
instructors, and each other.
Respect
is also shown and taught in many informal ways as well. When a new white belt is fumbling over what seems to be the simplest
of exercises, those students who have been a part of the dojo do not mock or
laugh at the new student. Rather,
they help and encourage the white belt until they are able to grasp the
technique. This does not only apply to new students; some people clearly have a
more natural physical ability than others.
It may take two blue belts a different amount of time to learn a new
kata, for example, or one may be able to remember goshin waza with only one
demonstration while another needs to see it three or four times.
In every action, from paying attention to the instructor to lining up for
class on time, students have the opportunity to show respect for the dojo, their
fellow students, and themselves.
If
students are working with partners, they show concern for each other’s
welfare. They help each other learn. Students
can be simply reminded of the importance of helping their partner learn the
exercise, use good technique, and only then apply some resistance.
This is often summed up by telling the partner to “be a good uke.”
Then when it is time to trade who attempts the technique, the other
partner will do the same. In this
way they practice showing that they value mutual well-being, and both students
are able to benefit and learn together.
Knowing the importance of mutual respect and well-being is not something that every student automatically brings to the dojo. Rather, it is something that must be taught, reinforced, and continually demonstrated by the sensei and current students. Whether they want to be or not, higher ranked students are role models for new students entering the dojo. Social norms are learned from those who are familiar with the expectations for behavior in any environment. This includes the dojo.
In
addition to informal teaching, sharing formal teaching responsibilities is also
a very important part of mutual respect and well-being. It may feel repetitive, and working with children that have a
very limited attention span can be a challenge. However, having experienced students participate in the
teaching process is vital to the success of the dojo, and of the continuation of
the martial arts. Without people
being willing and eager to take on the responsibility of sharing their
knowledge, it will be lost.
Unfortunately, the kind of positive environment many dojos strive for is not found inside every dojo. In some places, the attitude is more about showing off how strongly you can work any technique, often at the expense of fellow students. Instead of people who are having trouble being encouraged, they are mocked. Instead of focusing on helping everyone learn, people are only concerned about their own well-being. There is no opportunity to learn from more experienced students, and in the end everyone loses.
For
better or worse, the attitude found in a dojo often carries out into the outside
world. Respect for others leads to
respect for self. Continuous competition for self leads to selfishness in
one’s life. Teaching others karate techniques leads to the ability to teach
other subjects as well. Practicing
techniques without regard for your partner’s safety leads to bullying anyone
smaller or weaker than yourself.
Practicing and understanding the value of mutual respect and well-being is not simply an exercise in politeness. Rather, it is essential to the survival of the martial arts as a way of life.